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10 Resolutions to Enhance Your Self Worth in 2018

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This is the year to grind. This is the year I’m gonna get my life together. This is the year I’m going to eat healthy and exercise. Blah blah blah.

I’m all about being a badass goal setter, however why don’t we shift our energy towards living a life that makes us feel good. No more being hard on yourself for not being able to lose those last 5 pounds. No more feeling sorry for yourself for being in a job that makes you miserable. No more feeling guilty for not doing laundry.

Self worth simply means how much you value yourself. Not many people realize self worth is a major determining factor in how you live your life. How you view yourself determines the type of job you have, the types of relationships you’re in, what you eat and the vibes you give to the world.

Increase your self worth and I guarantee you will see major shifts in all areas of your life. Here are 10 resolutions to get you started on your journey of fabulousness.

  1.  Meditate. Pray. Journal. Sing. Do whatever you need to do to quiet the chaos around you and learn to listen to your intuition.
  2. Stop making excuses.
  3. Create a morning routine that fits your lifestyle.
  4. Forgive someone. Whether it’s yourself or someone else. Let that ish go. Walking around with extra weight holds you back from joy.
  5. Break a bad pattern. Eating junk, smoking, gossiping, speaking negatively about yourself, etc.
  6. Keep your health appointments. This includes going to the doctor, food shopping, getting your hair and nails done, girly lunch dates, going for a long walk. Basically anything that contributes to feel good hormones for the body, mind and soul.
  7. Do work that fills you up, not deplete you.
  8. Spread kindness daily.
  9. Make a conscious decision to say goodbye to things (and people) that hurt you.
  10. Open yourself up to true love. Whether you’re in a relationship or single, hear me out. All of us are walking around with things that are blocking us from receiving the love we deserve (and desire). Insecurities, past hurt, trust issues, pessimism, etc. Work on those things. Let go and be open to people who actually put effort into being a part of your life. You are worthy of greatness. Dontcha forget it.
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Meditation Mondays: Overcoming Obstacles

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Happy Monday!!!

Welcome to week 3 of Meditation Mondays, a new series I created for you to get your mind right for the week.

Today’s 5 minute meditation prompt is all about changing your perspective on struggle so that you can use it to move forward with your life.

If you’re going through a challenging time right now or have been recently, this is perfect for you. Dive in here!

If you’re new to Meditation Mondays, check out Week 1 and Week 2 on how to clear out the clutter in your life.

Have an amazing week! You got this!

xoxo,

Kayla

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17 Ways to Empower Yourself

No one is born confident. We all have fears and insecurities. There are things we can do to deal with them in a way that helps us, not keep us stuck. 

  1. Write a list of things you truly love about yourself.
  2. Do something you have never done before.
  3. Incorporate daily rituals to help you prep for the day.
  4. Decide to make peace with your past once and for all.
  5. Declare what you are passionate about.
  6. Set boundaries with that person.
  7. Limit time with those that bring you down. Sometimes that someone can be you so you have to learn to be more gentle with yourself.
  8. Wake up every morning saying “I intend to…today”. It may feel silly at first but your words are powerful. This signals to your brain to gear up for the day.
  9. Change your passwords to positive words that make you feel good. #GirlBo$$ is an old fave of mine.
  10. Read a personal development book. Reading isn’t your thing? Cool, listen to a podcast or watch a Les Brown YouTube video. Expose yourself to new possibilities.
  11. Define what disempowers you and take steps to delete it from your life. This may sound drastic but guess what, you are worth it.
  12. Take responsibility for your actions. Owning up to your side of things makes you feel good because when you say “I own up to this…” or “I did that because…” it restores your power because no one can throw stuff in your face that you have already taken responsibility.
  13. Music. No explanation needed.
  14. Dress to impress…yourself. Wearing clothes that make you feel good shifts your mood. You start walking taller and act more confidently which allows you to actually be present around people because you aren’t busy thinking about how uncomfortable or insecure you feel.
  15. Talk to yourself. When you are feeling like you can’t do something or you feel nervous. Allow your inner Queen or King to come out and give yourself a pep talk. Sometimes you just need to say “Pull yourself together cause you got this.”
  16. Say No. No to invitations that drain you just thinking about it. No to people who don’t respect.
  17. Say Yes. To new beginnings that give your tummy butterflies. Say yes to people who value you. Yes to opportunities that bring you growth.

If you prefer to hear me read this post to you, click here.

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17 Reasons To Speak Your Truth

I always say you can speak your truth with courage and kindness. It is all in your delivery. Yes, tone matters. Yes, language is important. Your voice matters. And it’s time to shed the people pleasing layers and share what you know has been buried in your soul. Your light.
There are so many reasons to acknowledge and put voice to your truth. Here are 17 of them:
  1. Because it’s healing.
  2. Suppressed feelings control your subconscious until you acknowledge them.
  3. Because compromising your principles is no longer an option.
  4. People will never get to know who you are if you tell them only what they want to hear.
  5. Someone who confidently owns up to their desires regardless of the possibility of rejection is very attractive.
  6. Standing in your truth is one of the bravest things in the world.
  7. Because it makes you a leader. When you share your story, it creates a safer space for others to share their truth.
  8. Owning your truth is an act of power no one can take from you.
  9. Being honest about how you feel will increase your self value which then limits the bullshit you are willing to take.
  10. Your truth leads you to your purpose.
  11. Because lying about what you are going through leads to more stress, heartbreak and false identity.
  12. Your truth is unique. Absolutely no one is you so sharing who you are makes you stand apart from the crowd in a positive light.
  13. It’s liberating. When you open your heart and voice your truth, you make room for new opportunities to pour into your life. When you are honest about your values, your feelings and where you stand on important issues you tend to weed out the blocks in your life. In return, you attract exactly what you need for growth.
  14. Sharing your truth makes people trust you and see you as reliable.
  15. It makes you relatable which fosters connection. No one is perfect. Your strengths, struggles and story will touch others in a similar situation.
  16. Expressing your truth is a pillar in living a life of passion, happiness and authenticity.
  17. Because it’s time. Now is your time. Dig deep and immerse yourself in your beautiful mess. Your journey of growth into your fiercest, bravest and most beautiful self.
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17 Fierce Healthy Choices for 2017

  1. Remove the word “terrible” from your vocabulary. Our words are so powerful. Choose them carefully. We tend to attract what we speak.
  2. Make a decision without constantly questioning whether you made the right choice.
  3. Handle your financial biz. Get organized about your bills and finances. You can’t expect to increase your bank account without clearing out your baggage aka debt.
  4. Go on a date with someone who is not your type if you’re single. If you’re coupled, take your boo on an eccentric date. One rule: there are no rules.
  5. Shake up your style a bit. If you’re normally all black everything, add some bold colors to your wardrobe. If you usually go for funky patterns then try a more streamlined look. See how you feel.
  6. Try meditating. Trust me when I say meditating can be for everyone. I used to sit in silence and get anxious because I couldn’t stay still without overanalyzing which kind of defeated the purpose. You can do guided meditations, listen to soothing music or repeat a soothing word to keep you focused. The point of meditation is to get in tune with your intuition. All of those questions you want answers to. You already have them. You have to be open to listening. Check out this post for more meditation tips.
  7. Strengthen your communication skills. Communication is the key to stronger relationships. You can read books, watch videos, practice with a friend, take a class. Writing your feelings down can give you clarity on communicating what you want another person to hear. It also allows you the time to come up with a good delivery. Speak your truth with courage and kindness.
  8. Express gratitude everyday. Yes, every single day. We spend so much time thinking about where we need to be in life that we forget to give thanks for where are now. Your experiences are shaping you. Even when things don’t seem the greatest, pay attention because there is a lesson to learn. I am soo grateful for the people in my life and the fact that regardless of how many times I struggle I am sent so many blessings to help me.
  9. Give someone the benefit of the doubt. You never truly know what someone is going through. If someone rubbed you the wrong way, maybe they are struggling with something which can cause anyone to act funky. And then sometimes people are just plain rude. Either way, try not to jump to conclusions.
  10. Take 5 minutes every night to tidy up before going to sleep. It may seem small but this task alone makes you feel productive and more at ease.
  11. Take a friend on a date for absolutely no reason but to celebrate them.
  12. Check in with yourself daily. We can get caught up in the crazy of our lives that we just go through the motions. We are not robots so it’s important to take a minute and catch up with our feelings. Ask yourself how you are doing and if there is anything that needs to be acknowledged before moving forward.
  13. Forgive. Have you heard that saying that forgiveness is more for you than the other person? Well, it’s for all parties involved. We walk around with so much guilt, shame and anger. It becomes like a ton of bricks. One day you won’t be able to go anywhere because you’ve blocked yourself in negative emotion. It’s time to let someone off the hook, even if that someone is you.
  14. Protect yourself. Be very selective of the people you allow in your space. We have all learned the hard way. Trust is important but that doesn’t mean everyone deserves yours.
  15. Cook more! It’s cheaper, healthier and you actually know what’s going into your body.
  16. Set realistic goals. I am not saying to minimize your dreams. Just the opposite. Think big and do bigger. Set yourself up for success by setting smaller attainable goals which will inspire you to keep going.
  17. Get honest with yourself. That thing you’ve been avoiding to think or speak about…it’s time.
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17 ways to make 2017 YOUR year

  1. Join a group. Community is the foundation of any success. Unity. Support. If you want this year to be grand, find your people. The people who want to build a better life for themselves. The people who get you.
  2. Give your closet a makeover. It’s time for a life revamp and that starts with the things you choose to cloth yourself with daily.
  3. Take yourself on a date. Before you can pour into others, you have to make sure you are taken care of.  Moments spent alone doing what you love gives you time to replenish and restore so you can return to the world kicking ass. 
  4. Cook dinner for your family. Every family has it’s ahem quirks. Find out more about where you came from. Express gratitude to those who have been part of your journey from the jump.
  5. Stop saying yes to invitations that make you cringe. You don’t have time to waste energy where it is not needed. 
  6. Volunteer. Helping others is beneficial for you and the person you help. Get out there. Someone needs you.
  7. Tell the truth to every single person you encounter for one whole day. Sounds a lot easier than it is. Try it. It’s liberating. And remember courage and kindness. It is all in your delivery.
  8. Start a new project. That thing you’ve been wanting to try…NOW is the time. If not now, when?
  9. Write your future self a love letter. Victoria Beckham wrote her teen self a letter which sparked this idea. Express how you feel in this very moment about your life journey so far.
  10. Keep a journal. Even if you aren’t a writer, I urge you to keep a recording of your moments. I am not talking about a “dear diary, this and that happened…” type of thing unless that is what you’re into. I have approached journal writing differently in the last few years. I write down aha moments I’ve had and words that came to mind during times of struggle. This did 2 things for me: reminded me that everything is temporary and a solution is right around the corner. And the second thing is the importance of gratitude. Being thankful for everything, the good, the bad and the craze will change your life because it is all apart of your journey. 
  11. Feed your mind, body, spirit with positivity. Listen to this. Look at my Pinterest board for some fierce motivation. For empowering reads, check this Amazon list I created for you. Watch this video. It’s my love letter to your for this year.
  12. Dance in your room naked. Yuppp. It’s time to get comfortable with what you’re working with. Please close your window shades. No need to broadcast your greatness in that moment.
  13. Take a class to learn something new. Learning new things will lead to growth in all areas of your life. 
  14. Make peace with your with your past. There is no way you can make this your year if you keep revisiting past hurt, regrets and distractions. Move forward boo. There is a beautiful path ahead of you and you will never see it if you keep looking down. 
  15. Go to sleep an hour earlier. Life is so much easier when you aren’t cranky.
  16. Take a chance. Reality is this life is too short and there is no time like the present to being passionate about everything that makes your heart smile.
  17. Think about who you want to be. Forget lists of things you want to accomplish. Think about the person you want to be and what actions you can take to be that person. Not who you think you should be. Who you already are inside. You just have to remove the blocks in place. 

This is YOUR year. Put yourself out there. Look silly. Be you.

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3 Ways To Improve Your Life Now

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The New Year is approaching in less than 2 weeks! I’m excited.  This is the time our lifestyles could use a little sprucing up. Think about the habits you want to leave in 2014. Dream of the great things you will accomplish in 2015. If you haven’t already, figure out your word for 2015.

To get you started, here are 3 ways you can improve your life. If you blend these 3 things into your life now, you will receive more clarity around the things you want.

1. Work on Self awareness: this is so important. Being self aware improves all relationships and enhances communication. What do I mean by self awareness? Get to know your core self, what triggers you, what excites you, etc. When you are clear on who you are and what your needs are, you get more of what you want.

2. Become comfortable with silence.  I’m rarely quiet. But I don’t mind silence. In fact I need it sometimes.  In silence, you reflect. Thats when you get the best ideas or that answer you’ve been searching for. We all lead busy lives so make sure you get a few minutes (preferably more) each day for yourself. Soon I will write another post about what you can do during that silence.

3. Realize that change is a must. If you’re uncomfortable with change, I urge you to shift your perspective. Change is necessary for growth. You want to grow personally/professionally right? I get it. Change can be scary because of the unknown. What’s going to happen? Is this the right decision? Well, change can be fun. Think of it this way, if nothing changes in your life, will you be happy, truly? I’m pretty sure there is at least one thing in your life right now that could be better. That’s a good thing. Nothing is perfect and life is about trial and error. Trying different things to see what fits right in your life should be fun, not stressful.

With all of the crazy going on around the world right now, we need to work on ourselves so we can help bring more peace and clarity by uniting with others to find productive solutions. Thanks for reading =)

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