Be Your Own Valentine


How do you usually feel as February 14th approaches? Excited to celebrate another love filled day? Or anxiety because you don’t have someone to celebrate with?

Society places so much pressure on Valentine’s Day. It’s kind of ridiculous to promote spending money as a means to make ourselves and/or our partner feel loved. We have been conditioned to feel bad about ourselves come V-day. If you have a significant other, you are filled with wild expectations of what you should receive or what you should be doing to “celebrate” your love. And if you’re single on V-day, you envy “happy couples”. All in all, I still love this cheesy holiday because I need yet another excuse to drink wine and eat chocolates. Yum!

This year I say we celebrate the love we have for ourselves instead. We should celebrate ourselves everyday! I felt it was appropriate to launch Vow to be Fierce today because it is a tribute to myself.

Being Fierce means to be comfortable in your own skin and to allow good things to happen to you knowing you deserve them. To do this you must accept yourself wholeheartedly. Crazy, right? You may think, I have so many things I do not want to accept about myself and want to change. Trust me, I am a big believer that change is vital to growth. However, accepting yourself for who you are now in this moment needs to happen first. Celebrating your triumphs, personality, flaws and all. More on what being Fierce means later…

A few ways on how to be your own valentine:

-Take yourself to a spa and get a massage! I found many discounts through Amazon Local.

-Plan a whole day of things you like to do. Watch a movie you’ve been wanting to see, finish reading that book or cook a grand meal and invite a fun, positive person over.

-Make a list of things that make you fabulous. Don’t be shy, no one is watching.

-Get your closest friend and grab a drink or even go for a run together.

-Dress up in your absolute favorite outfit.

Whatever you choose to do, make sure it is something that makes YOU happy. Don’t waste time reminiscing about exes or the past. Be present. Celebrating ourselves is fundamental to living our best life!

Cheers =)







9 responses to “Be Your Own Valentine”

  1. Mindy Avatar

    It’s amazing how you think. You are absolutely right to say that a lot of people think that because they don’t have a valentine on this day it’s the end of the world.

    We should all celebrate ourselfs first and foremost and value ourselfs first before anyone.

    Love yourself and then you can love others.

    Love is about spreading love everyday whether you do a good deed for a love one or even a stranger.

    Love should be an everyday task.

    So, if you are single be ready to mingle and don’t waste your life away.

    Love the Blog.
    Good Luck.

    1. Kayla C Avatar

      You are absolutely right. Love the feedback. Thanks and happy love day to you 🙂

  2. Amira Avatar

    I love this post Kayla! And what a great way/day to launch your new blog! I am looking forward to more 🙂

    1. Kayla C Avatar

      Thanks for the support. I have a lot more posts coming 🙂

  3. Nyssa Avatar

    Love it!!! Congrats on the new blog!!!! So excited for you and what’s to come next!!

    Who care what society thinks!

    I will be spending V-day with my best valentine, my nephew, stuffing our faces with chocolate and watching scary movies!

    1. Kayla C Avatar

      Love it! That’s how you should spend it. With people who make you smile. I know he loves his titi 🙂

  4. Aliza Avatar

    Thank you for such beautiful & inspirational VD post! Stay fierce and happy valentines day : )

  5. Gloria Avatar

    Hi Kayla,
    Congratulations on your new blog!!!
    looking forward to more posts.

    Best of luck!!!

    P.S I too take that “vow to be fierce”!!

    1. Kayla C Avatar

      Thank you Gloria! You are definitely fierce! 🙂

Never look down on anybody unless you’re helping him up. ~Jesse Jackson

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